How to THRIVE After Divorce with Anna Shpilsher

NOTE: This is a legacy episode from the Women Inspired podcast, before it transitioned to be the Building Psychological Strength podcast. While you will hear some mention of the Women Inspired brand during this episode, the content is highly relevant to the goals of Peak Mind, which is why we have included it here. Enjoy!

This week, I’m covering a topic that I’ve never talked about on the podcast before: divorce.

Specifically, I’m chatting with Anna Shpilsher, a woman who focuses on helping people rebuild their lives after divorce.

Anna says that her life began after her divorce. Before then, life was pretty awful. She suddenly found herself 30, divorced, and a single mom to 2 small children.

She hated her new identity.

And, to make matters worse, she was stuck… stuck thinking about what once was and not being able to move past it.  All things were becoming a burden, including parenting, and she was longing for normalcy and adult connection like never before.

Anna found her way out of those feelings and has gone on to live an incredibly aligned, happy life, and she’s passionate about helping other people do the same.

This is why she does the work she does today.

We had such an intimate conversation, and we hit on some important topics:

• Radical responsibility - Anna took responsibility for the situation she found herself in, even though it was her ex-husband’s fault for putting her there! This is the purest example of radical responsibility that I’ve ever seen. My question to you is this: if you aren’t willing to do what Anna did and take responsibility for your own happiness, who are you giving that power to?

• Negativity habit - Our minds naturally move toward the negative, if we don’t intentionally work to balance our thinking. Anna and I talk about how pervasive this habit is, the impact it has on us, and what we can do about it. (Psst, check out episode 59 for an entire episode on this topic). Head over to Peak Mind to learn how you can break the negativity habit by building psychological strength.

• Your value as a person - You are valuable as a person, simply because you are here. That’s it. Your value as a person is not dictated by your successes, failures, other people’s praise, or criticism. Anna and I have a powerful discussion about the intrinsic value of every single person and how we can embrace that value, even in the face of hardship.

Thank you, Anna, for your openness and for sharing your wisdom with us!